Some may seek to declare their love with Gifts, whereas others think it’s okay to ignore the big hype and appreciate the love in everyday gestures. Both is fine, you should think. Well, as long as both sides agree on a mutual course – their language of love. Don’t be at odds with your partner’s language of love, you can easily learn to speak it.
Mastering the five languages of love and practicing them in moderation is a smart and healthy way to enrich your relationship. That’s what US relationship counsellor Gary Chapman says with his theory on the five languages of love. Find out how you can grant attention and mindfulness to your little darling, but also to friends and family.
Speaking Tenderness
Cuddly bunnies and snug teddy bears know what they like best. To touch and to be touched is all they ask for, and the best tokens of appreciation are warm hugs and affectionate kisses. As long as you meet them with an open embrace, you’ll have the most important gift within arm’s reach.
Speaking Presents
Showing attention by little acts of courtesy aka small gifts saying that you care is the epitome of this language of love. A bunch of flowers will go a long way here, just like couple T-shirts offer a great means of demonstrating your affection on Valentine’s Day.
Speaking helpfulness
Fixing the computer, doing the shopping, getting the rubbish out, exchanging light bulbs – there’s many a thing you can do to cater to the needs of those who think actions speak louder than words. How about a voucher for doing the gardening come spring to make their hearts leap with joy?
Speaking the right words
“Tell it like it is,” that’s all they want to hear. Let these people know what you really like about them, and phrase your love in frank and honest words to make them happy. If they can feel that your “I love you” is really meant the way you say it, you don’t need to worry about diamond rings or Belgian chocolates.
Speaking togetherness
Time spent together is quality time. That’s the mantra of those who just want to be with you to be happy. Whether you just cuddle up on the couch or enjoy a weekend spent hiking in the Peak District – the important thing here is that you devote your time and undivided attention to your partner. Having an ear for their worries, cares and everyday stories is what counts the most.
We all know that opposites attract, so it’s a common occurrence to have people speaking completely different languages of love. Don’t be disappointed if you don’t get the gift you think you deserve, and be grateful for the post-it note saying “I love you” that’s left on your bathroom mirror. And if you still feel like getting a little something, you just might as well.
What do you make of the theory about different languages of love? Do you feel yours is different from your partner’s? We look forward to your feedback in the comments below!
